Marry Yourself

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Why Sologamy Might Be the Most Empowering Wedding You’ll Ever Have

Not every wedding needs to be a duet. Sometimes, the most transformative vows are the ones whispered to yourself, in a moment of pure celebration and healing, choosing you and doing it boldly. That’s why team E-lope, the home of modern weddings, has created the Sologamy Wedding Package exclusively at Bilsington Priory, the home of intimate weddings.

Stepping Into the Light of Sologamy

At E-Lope, we believe sologamy is as worthy of beauty and attention as any traditional wedding. Whether you’re marking a milestone, emerging from heartbreak, reclaiming your identity, or simply ready to honour the incredible person you’ve become, self-marriage is for anyone who feels called to stand in their own light.

Everyone is welcome, including women, men, nonbinary folks, and anyone who craves this affirmation. Wear a gown, a tux, a jumpsuit, or something daringly unique. Your self-wedding is about feeling fully and unapologetically you. Welcome to the blossoming world of sologamy in the UK, a celebration of self-love, self-worth, and unapologetic self-recognition.

What Exactly Is Sologamy?

Sologamy, or self-marriage, is a symbolic and deeply personal commitment to oneself. It’s not about isolation; it’s about recognising your worth and celebrating your journey, exactly as you are.

Whether you’re healing, embarking on a new chapter, or toasting to a milestone birthday, a self-marriage ceremony offers a soulful moment to pause and truly see yourself.

Why Do People Say “Yes” to Themselves?

There’s no single reason, and that’s the beauty of it. People choose sologamy to:

• Honour a personal milestone
• Reclaim themselves after loss, divorce, or trauma
• Mark a new beginning after burnout or breakup
• Commit to self-care after years of self-neglect
• Celebrate newfound peace or clarity
• Say “yes” to standing tall, somewhere extraordinary.

At E-Lope, we hold this as a bold, joyful, and completely valid expression of love.

Where Will You Say “I Do” to Yourself?

Choose from three enchanting settings at Bilsington Priory:

1. Peaceful Gardens: Enveloped in birdsong and blossom, perfect for a summer’s day
2. Atmospheric Great Hall: A historic sanctuary echoing with stories of medieval travellers
3. Libby’s Manor House: A tranquil Edwardian space brimming with character.

Each has its special energy, and we’re here to help you find the perfect backdrop for your story.

Here’s What Your Sologamy Wedding Package Includes

Every detail is curated with the care and artistry we bring to all E-Lope weddings, by our multi-award-winning tiny wedding expert, The Wedding Owl.

Included in your £2,720 package:

• Exclusive use of Bilsington Priory
• Use of the Tack Room for last-minute preparations
• Professional photography to capture your unique story
• A bespoke bouquet, flower crown, or buttonhole by House of Mimi Fleur
• Confetti
• Custom-made wedding cake from Cobi & Coco (to cut for the photos, or save for later)
• A choice of celebration food for up to four: Indulgent canapé menu, or an elegant picnic by the lake or gazebo (weather permitting) or Traditional Afternoon Tea, indoors or out, prepared by Libby from the Edwardian Manor, famous for her quintessential Afternoon Teas
• Champagne toast to honour your intimate self-wedding.

The price includes up to 3 guests; plus an additional 7 guests can be added for £100 per person.

Optional Add-Ons:

• The ultimate joyful touch, Gary the Confetti pony (£150):
• Overnight stay in the Manor House B&B, including breakfast (£150 per room)
• Book an Independent celebrant (see recommended suppliers)

Your Ceremony, Your Vows

Some arrive with handwritten vows; others speak what’s in their heart. Read a poem, sing, or sit in meaningful silence. If you’d like guidance, we’re ready with celebrant recommendations to help craft a ceremony as unique as you are. Pets are also welcome to join you!

Why E-Lope Loves Sologamy

We founded E-Lope so people could choose a modern wedding, marry lovingly, even on tight timelines or unique budgets. Nearly 100 couples (and self-couples!) later, we know every love story is different, including the one you have with yourself.

Sologamy isn’t indulgent, it’s perfect. It isn’t about ego, but about gracefully affirming: “I know who I am. I choose to love that person.”

If you’ve wondered how to marry yourself in the UK, we’re here to make it joyful, beautiful, and truly easy. All you need to do is come to Kent, and we’ll take care of the rest.

Love isn’t something you have to wait for. It’s something you can choose, right now, for yourself.

Note: Sologamy ceremonies are bookable up to 9 months in advance and are only available on Mondays through Wednesdays. As a consequence, dates fill quickly.

A non-refundable £1,000 retainer is required; wedding insurance is strongly recommended.

Ready to Say “I Do” to You?

If your heart is curious, let’s talk. This isn’t just another event, it’s a love letter to yourself. And it would be our privilege to help you write it.

Contact E-Lope today to start your self-marriage journey.